Four weeks ago if you had told me I would soon be forced back into homeschooling my children, be hunting through empty store shelves for necessities and trying to find creative ways to both keep us home and also sane, I wouldn’t have believed you. Our world has drastically changed in these four weeks and as a mother of three, my little world has changed right along with it. I’ll be the first to also admit that I’m struggling. Struggling with change, struggling with my plans shifting, struggling with grasping hope amid all the darkness. But I’m thankful God does not leave me alone in these times where I start to doubt. He has a gentle way of showing me through my own weakness just how much I need Him and His Word right now… and always. He has been drawing me back to His Word over and over, and, just like I teach my kids, verses I memorized long ago keep popping back in my head and heart just when I need them the most.
As a Christian (mother) during these ever-changing times, I need to…
1. Be Strong
Little eyes and ears are watching and listening and waiting to see how I respond so they know how they should respond. What a privilege and responsibility and reason to stay strong and grounded in the Lord. Circumstances change, He will not. As my children grow, the Coronavirus will (hopefully) be a small blip on their overall memory. How I handle change and stress? That stays with them. Do I seek to instill peace and hope within their hearts? Those strongholds will last a lifetime.
…be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity. (1 Timothy 4:12)
2. Be Real
I am not the only one dealing with change, uncertainty, stress, desperation, feeling overwhelmed. God has set up long ago a human support system for each of us. Maybe it’s your family, maybe it’s your church, maybe it’s just one special friend who knows your heart. By being real with each other and finding support, it’s amazing how the Lord can use us in each other’s lives to give us hope and encouragement. Open up to a friend and ask them to do the same. If I am not willing to let someone know my struggles and allow them to be God’s channel of blessing to me, I’m both depending on my own strength and also robbing someone else of ministry they were designed for! Pray for one another. It’s not just a trite saying, it’s Biblical!
Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ. (Galatians 6:2)
3. Be Adaptable
Ultimately, I will never be fully secure until I’m fully trusting in a sovereign, all-powerful God. He allows change. He also allows us to choose how we handle change— either in our own power, which surely leads to disappointment and frustration, or in ever-leaning on His truth and presence in our lives. Choosing to trust is not easy— and it’s not a one-time decision. Every day I need to choose to trust and then be willing to adapt to whatever He brings into my life. If it were easy we wouldn’t be given a verse like this to cling to!
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. (Proverbs 3:5)
4. Be Kind
This is a big, crucial one for me. It’s so easy to wallow in my own discontent and bring others down with me. My spouse, my children, my friends. Negativity is easy right now. But being kind because we love those God loves and have peace amid turmoil? That’s what the world needs to see. And if you’re like me, your world may just be your three darling, angelic children who push every button there is to push right now! How I treat them and how they see me treating others is huge in their eyes.
Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man. (Colossians 4:6)
As mothers (and Christians), let’s purpose in our hearts that this time of “stay at home” can be one that nurtures our families, lifts up those around us and ultimately, brings the unsaved to the Gospel. God has a plan in all this. He is still good and kind and strong. We now need to live in a way that he will receive glory in our lives, despite any circumstance we face.